Last Updated on December 11, 2024 by Kelly
When people think of dildos, they usually imagine women using them. Many men, especially straight men, may not feel that they should use dildos.
But dildos open a new world of pleasure for men, regardless of their sexuality.
For example, the male body has the prostate. Stimulating it can give a man an amazing orgasm. Male dildos can also be a great way to experiment.
There is no reason not to try dildos at least once, no matter who you are.
So I’m here to explain why dildos are good for men and show how you can use them.
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What are The Benefits of Men Using a Dildo?
The first reason is for pleasure. Men and AMABs have what’s called a P-spot, which is your prostate.
When you use a dildo, particularly one designed to reach the prostate, it can make orgasms intense! Even straight men should try stimulating their prostate at least once.
Another benefit is that a dildo can prepare gay men for their partners.
Before anal intercourse, you may want to use a dildo to help stretch yourself out and take your partner without the pain.
What Types of Dildos Are Best For Males?
When you visit your local sex shop, you’ll come across several types of dildos. Let’s look at the main ones you’ll encounter.
Prostate Massager
This is a dildo shaped to reach your prostate. It’s called a massager, as it also includes a vibration function to stimulate your prostate and let you reach orgasm much faster!
Some prostate massagers may have a ribbed texture, which can add even more pleasure.
Butt Plugs
The butt plug is a classic toy and great for beginners. It also works great for any sex. Butt plugs are designed to go into your ass quickly and stay there until you’re ready to pull it out.
They come in many shapes, sizes, and functions.
For example, you can find vibrating butt plugs or butt plugs you can control through your smartphone.
Suction Cup Dildos
These dildos have a suction cup on the bottom. The suction cup can stick to most surfaces, such as the bathtub, kitchen floor, and any other hard, smooth surface.
With this dildo, you can ride it hands-free.
Pegging Strap-On
These pegging dildos attach to a strap-on harness. Some of them may also be suction cup dildos.
This option is excellent if you have a female or AFAB partner who wants to have sex with you like they have a penis.
Anal Beads
Anal beads are long and go from small to large. They’re great for first-timers, as getting the first few beads is easy.
But they’re also great for experienced users, as you can get the biggest bead in there and make them go deep!
Also Read: Lovense Ridge Review – Are These Rotating Anal Beads Worth it?
Dildos for Men
This category covers other types of dildos, such as male masturbator dildos. These dildos may also include a Fleshlight-like insert for men to masturbate as well.
Also Read: 7 Best Dildos For Men To Tap the P-Spot
How To Use A Dildo For Men
Now, let us look at some essential tips for using anal dildos for men. Please note that you should always read the instructions included.
Depending on which dildo you purchase, there may be unique requirements.
1. Wash The Dildo
Even if it’s fresh out of the packaging, it wouldn’t hurt to give the dildo a cleaning. There may be some bacteria on it, and you may want to remove its fresh-out-of-the-box smell.
Wash it with mild soap and warm water. Alternatively, wipe it with an antibacterial toy cleaner. You should also wash the dildo after use.
2. Prepare Yourself
On your end (pun not intended,) you should prepare yourself. If possible, clear your bowels. If you don’t need to go, use an enema bulb.
Flushing yourself out will prevent any nasty surprises.
Of course, this also means that you should prepare yourself mentally.
3. Create A Good Mood
For best results, you want to create a mood that keeps you relaxed and ready to take the dildo. Dim the lights.
Put on some good music. Do whatever it takes to put you in a good mood. Being in a stressed, angry, or hostile mood can make your experience much worse.
If today’s not a good day, you may want to postpone your first experience.
4. Add Lube
Get yourself lots of lube before you use the dildo. A water-based lube can work well, but so can silicone or hybrid.
With silicone lubes you will want to avoid putting them on silicone toys. You can also get injectors to put inside of your ass.
This process can make inserting the dildo much easier, as you don’t need to add too much to your dildo.
5. Warm-Up
Warming up involves preparing your anus for the dildo. You can put some lubricant on your finger and play with your hole.
This will help to stretch yourself out a little bit. If you have a smaller dildo, you may want to put that inside of yourself first.
Check out my post on smaller dildos here.
6. Start Slow
It’s not a race. You’ll want to insert the dildo slowly so that your body gets used to it. As you feel ready, go a little faster and deeper.
How fast you’ll need to be will depend on your body, so listen to it. If you start to feel pain, take the dildo out.
You should not feel any pain. Rest yourself, and then come back later with a little more prep.
Tips For Using an Anal Dildo
Choose High-Quality Safe Products
Avoid using household items as a dildo. Also, avoid buying dildos from suspicious sellers. Instead, choose dildos from reputable sellers.
Finally, get dildos made from silicone, metal, glass, or other non-porous materials. This way, the dildo is easy to clean and doesn’t leave behind any hidden bacteria.
When buying a dildo, you may want to look at any reviews, if applicable. Alternatively, you can visit your local sex shop and ask the workers there which dildo you should use.
Avoid Numbing Your Behind
There are several lubes designed to numb your ass. But this is bad news for several reasons.
First, you want to feel pleasure, and numbing can reduce the pleasure. If the lube gets on your partner’s penis, they won’t feel pleasure, either.
Second, a numbing gel will numb the pain, which you may think is good. But you shouldn’t feel pain while using a dildo.
Pain is your body’s way of telling you to ease up. If you don’t feel pain, but you’re hurting your body, the consequences you’ll face the morning after can be massive.
That’s because…..
Pain is a Warning Signal
When you put the dildo inside of you, you shouldn’t feel pain! If you feel pain, then take out the dildo. You risk tearing your anus, which can lead to bleeding.
If you feel pain, you may need to relax more, use more lube, or get a smaller dildo. Feeling sore is a normal feeling, and so is feeling full.
However, you should never feel hurt.
Keep Things Clean While Using Your Dildo
Cleanliness can prevent the spread of diseases, and it’s gross not to clean your dildo after use. If you’re using a silicone, metal, or glass dildo, cleaning it is easy.
Just use mild antibacterial soap and warm water. You can also use a toy cleaner. Let the dildo air dry, then put it back in its storage.
Don’t Forget to Clean Your Anus and Rectum Before Using the Dildo
You don’t want to pull out the dildo only to see something… gross on it. You must clean your ass out before using it.
You can purchase an enema bulb, flush yourself out with water, and then wipe yourself off for good measure.
Also, use the bathroom beforehand.
Obviously, we can’t poop on command, but if you feel like one’s coming, maybe wait for it to pass, then clean yourself out with an enema bulb.
Use the Right Lube
Lots of lube is essential, especially if it’s your first time. But what type of lube should you use? Let me give you a summary of the major kinds of lubes.
Water-based lube is universally good. However, you will need to reapply the lube often.
Silicone-based lubes don’t need to be reapplied as often. However, they can damage any silicone-based toys.
Hybrid lubes combine water and silicone. While not as slippery as silicone lube, they’re better than water and will not damage your silicone-based toys.
Oil-based lubes are long-lasting but may sting your fabrics.
My recommendation is to hit up your local sex shops and see what they have. Chances are, they have the right lube for you!
Store It Properly
Once your dildo is cleaned and dried, be sure to store it properly. One way to store it is to put it in a silk bag.
Many dildos will come with their own. Then, put it in a drawer in a cool, dry place.
Be sure to read the dildo’s manual for any special storage instructions.
Never Share Anal Toys
Sharing toys can spread diseases, especially if the toy is not clean. Putting in a toy that your partner just used may feel quite kinky, but don’t take the risk.
To be safe, be sure you and your partner have your own toy set.
Best Positions to Use a Dildo for Men
When you use a dildo, what are the best positions you should try? Here are some ones you should try.
Missionary Position
The classic missionary style may be the most suitable for newbies. Lie flat on your back, spread your legs, and then insert the dildo.
You can get it quite deep, and it feels comfortable to do so.
Doggy Style Position
The doggy-style position works well for a dildo, anyway. Getting on all fours like a dog, then shoving a dildo inside of you, can feel so good.
It also keeps your anus pretty relaxed.
Spooning Position
With the spooning position, you lie on your side and then insert the dildo inside of you. It’s another position that can get the dildo deep.
However, it also feels highly relaxing if you have a nice bed.
Prone
The prone position involves lying face down and then sticking the dildo inside of you.
This position can give you the feeling that someone is pinning you down and putting it inside of you.
But don’t get too crazy if you’re a beginner. Start slowly!
Standing Doggy
The standing doggy involves you standing up with you kneeling over. The best way to do this position is at the bedside.
If you don’t have that, doing it over a table, counter, or something similar will do the trick.
Suction Cup Squat
This position involves you sticking a suction cup dildo to the floor. Ensure the floor you’re using is clean, hard, and smooth.
Also, be sure that the suction cup will stick. Using a bit of Vaseline may help it stick if not. Once you’re sure the dildo is well-stuck to the floor, you can then squat on it.
Be sure the dildo is nicely lubed, and your butt is prepared. This position can go quite deep.
Using a Chair
This position is another one that is best reserved for a suction cup dildo. Put it on a chair, then sit on it.
The dildo can go quite deep inside of you, and it does not require you to do any heavy squatting.
But, like the squat, you want to ensure you’re well-prepared. Also, the chair should be a stable one. For example, using a barstool may not be the best move.
And with that, this is all you need to know about male dildos if you’re a first-timer. It can be an exciting world to enter, but you should educate yourself beforehand.
Not preparing can lead to a negative experience, which may turn off some people.
Of course, using a male dildo is not for everyone, so if you don’t like it, there are other ways to get yourself off.
