Last Updated on February 20, 2025 by Kelly
Some people are new to sex toys or sex in general. You may be a late bloomer or just come of age, and now can finally talk about this stuff.
Whatever the case, I’m here to answer any burning questions you may have about toys.
For example, you may be wondering why dildos feel good and which is better, a dildo or a penis?
So let’s get straight into it.
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Why Do Dildos Feel Good?
Dildos feel good because they’re designed to stimulate your most sensitive stones. For instance, a G-spot dildo is made to stimulate the most sensitive part of your clitoral area.
Dildos simulate sex, and we’re hardwired to think sex feels good. Dildos can feel good because they vibrate as well.
Vibration can hit your most sensitive areas many times and help you reach orgasm faster.
Another reason dildos can feel good is because of textures. A dildo may have ripples, bumps, or other imperfections that can keep your body guessing!
Finally, dildos can feel good because they help you unleash some stress. You may be sexually pent-up or have had problems in your personal life.
A dildo can be a sort of release that clears your mind and helps to unleash those feel-good chemicals that you’ll be vibing on for hours.
What Do Dildos Feel Like?
How a dildo feels can depend on the type of dildo it is, the material, size, and other factors.
Silicone dildos can feel somewhat like a real penis, but they can be firmer or softer depending on where you buy them.
Glass dildos can feel stiff and slippery and be warm or cold if you use temperature play.
If you use a vibrator, the vibrations can intensify the pleasure and make your body tremble.
Dildos meant for the anus may make that area feel full but pleasurable. Some dildos are intended to reach the prostate for male-bodied individuals.
Reaching the prostate can bring home even more gratification and make you hit that orgasm quickly.
While dildos can feel different for each person, one thing that it should never feel is painful. If you’re hurting, you may not have enough lube, or the dildo may be too big.
Are There Dildos That Feel Like The Real Thing?
Nothing, at least with our current technology, will feel like the real thing. However, some dildos have realistic skin colors, veins, squishy balls, or other features that come close to a real penis.
The more realistic the dildo is, the more expensive it can be. I’ve seen realistic dildos that can cost $500 or more. At some point, you might as well get the real thing.
Of course, not everyone wants to feel the real thing. If you prefer vaginas, you probably just want a toy that can stimulate you without feeling like a penis.
In this case, you may go for less realistic dildos and more like toys.
Does a Penis Feel Good?
Yes, a penis can feel fantastic! But it is on a case-by-case basis. There are several reasons why a penis can feel uncomfortable or painful. Here are some common reasons.
- Inadequate foreplay. If you didn’t get wet, then you might not be ready for the penis. Don’t rush into sex; take your time!
- The penis may be too big. Bigger is not always better. Sometimes, you may need to use extra lube or a smaller dildo first.
- You may not have a connection with that person. Even if you have no problem with casual sex, you may discover you want a bond with the person first.
- It may be the case that you don’t like penises after all. Sexuality is fluid and can evolve depending on your experiences.
Not to boil humans down to food, but penises can be like a plate of french fries. You can have french fries that are well-seasoned, crispy, and make you want more.
On the other hand, you can get a plate of fries that’s old, soggy, and served by someone who hates their job.
This analogy just makes me want some fries, to be honest.
What Does Sex Feel Like With a Penis?
If you’ve never had sex with a man or gender gender-nonconforming penis, it’s hard to describe.
Like a dildo, you’ll feel fullness. You’ll also feel the person’s warmth and wetness of their penis.
Also, if you have a connection with the person, the feelings of pleasure may double. You’ll not only feel physically pleasured but mentally as well.
With that said, if you don’t like the person, or they’re not good in bed, a penis can feel dry and painful. This can also be due to poor preparation.
Foreplay is always important, so be sure that you engage in it! With sex, I also want to stress that communication is key.
Sex can feel even better if you tell your partner what you like and what you don’t. If you’re still new to the sex game, communicate at all times.
If something doesn’t feel good, say it, then try something else. Or grab some ice cream.
Dildo Vs a Penis – Which One is Better?
There is no correct answer to this question, as it’s all based on experience and preference.
Yeah, we all hate fence-sitting, but this is one of those questions that can depend on the person.
Not only that but the person’s mood. There are some days when the real thing beats the vibrator.
There are other days when you’d prefer a dildo, especially if your boyfriend has pissed you off!
Let me give the pros vs. the cons of each and let you decide.
Pros of Penises
- The person attached to them. There’s an intimate connection there that no dildo can ever bring.
- Pleasing your partner feels so good.
- Each one is unique and gives you a different experience.
- The feeling of flesh is unmatched. No matter how realistic a dildo is, it will never feel like real human flesh.
- Ejaculation. Sure, squirting dildos exist, but they’re not the same.
Cons of Penises
- The person attached to them. Yes, the pro is also a con if the person isn’t that good.
- The penis may be too big or too small. You only have the owner’s word on its size, and they can lie!
- A penis may not hit as many places as a specially-designed dildo can.
- It can’t vibrate yet.
- The possibility of STIs. Always test or use condoms!
- Once the penis ejaculates or the person tires out, you can’t have fun for a while. There are exceptions depending on the refractory period and all that, of course.
Pros of Dildos
- You can choose their shape, size, or features.
- They can vibrate. Some even sync to your favorite song.
- Comes in a variety of materials, such as silicone, metal, or glass.
- There are no hurt feelings toward the dildo if you’re not satisfied, unlike a person.
- It can be more expensive than a date.
- Also, people who are repulsed by penises may still enjoy dildos.
- You can reach spots that a human can’t.
Cons of Dildos
- The lack of a human connection.
- Some dildos are made from poorer-quality materials, which can lead to infections.
- Dildos lack the rest of a human who can do all sorts of things to you!
- There’s more social stigma toward using a dildo (but also, who cares what people think!)
- Some dildos can be more expensive than a date night!
- You need to clean them after every use. Meanwhile, your partner (hopefully) showers.
- Some dildos may be bigger than you thought.
I wrote whatever I thought I could. I know that dildos have more pros than penises, but I do think of them as equals and situation dependent.
So don’t feel bad if you’re reading this and you have a penis. You’re valid.
How to Choose a Dildo Right for You
What Body Part Do You Want to Feel Pleasure?
Do you want your clitoris, G-spot, P-spot, or ass to feel pleasure? Do you want a dildo that can target multiple areas at once?
This can help you decide which one you want.
Most dildos will say explicitly what body parts they’re meant for, which can give you a better idea of what you should choose.
What Size is Right for You?
Length and girth matter a lot when choosing a dildo. A dildo that is 6 inches in length and 4.5 in girth is considered average.
However, you can go bigger and smaller.
Some dildos have small, medium, or large sizes to choose from. Be sure to read the description for the size.
If necessary, whip out a ruler or tape measurer.
How Firm Do You Want It To Feel?
Many dildos will have a firmness level on their description page. A firm dildo is hard and doesn’t bend.
Meanwhile, a softer dildo is bendy.
A medium-firm dildo is solid but can bend a little. It can be a bit difficult to know your preferred firmness without touching it.
And most sex stores don’t offer free samples.
I’d recommend you order a medium-firm dildo and then go less or more firm, depending on if you like the firmness or softness more.
That said, I think most people are flexible in this field. They may want a firmer dildo one day and a softer one the next.
Do Women Prefer Dildos Or Vibrators?
It depends on the woman! I honestly never like those “Women like this” generalizations because we’re not all part of a hive mind. Though, we can sting.
I love vibrators because they’re so customizable. And if I don’t feel like having my dildo buzz, I can just turn it off.
But regular dildos are great for slower orgasms. Plus, they won’t accidentally go off if you’re traveling. Not only that, but they come in other materials.
Finding a glass vibrator is rare. Another reason you may prefer a dildo is that it’s guaranteed waterproof.
Yes, waterproof dildos exist, but I still occasionally fear bringing one in the shower. I don’t know. I imagine it’s like a plugged-in hair dryer or something.
Plus, there are different levels of waterproofing, and if you don’t research them carefully, you may ruin your dildo because you thought it could be dunked when it was just splashproof.
Most have both, but if you have to go with one, I’d go with a basic vibrator.
Also Read: Dildo Vs Vibrator – The Key Differences Between The Two
